Dating Like a Mother

Without coming across as conceded the reality is you either love me or you hate me.  Clearly i have more lovers than haters, i'd go as far as to say that haters are jealous.  Joking aside i have a huge crew of people rooting for me and hoping for nothing but the best with a happily ever after.  Everyone has advice and wants to help.  I know its all coming from a good place and i actually enjoy hearing what they have to say.  Today i'm going to share with you about the time i went out with a good girlfriend who is my right hand girl and was convinced she'd be the best wing woman ever. (she was actually pretty good, and we'll go out again) We picked our poison choosing Sullivans in downtown Naperville as our hunting grounds. We found ourselves cozy little seats at the bar leaving empty seat on either side.  Quickly behind me two gentleman sat down.  My girlfriend noticed them instantly and saw her notice them.  She then instructed me to turn arou...

So, my Little (Big) Blue Ring gets a ton of attention.  Whether its out running errands in yoga pants and a baseball cap or all dressed up people always stop and ask.   I figured a little back story on this beauty is necessary.  I wear the blue stoned ring for my boys.  I actually received it as a gift when my first son was born.  Originally the plan was for a birthstone ring but later blue seemed like the perfect fit especially since i have 3 boys.  Recently the stone fell out and my finger was ringless.  I had it reset and happily it's back on my finger.  The jeweler had a lot of questions about the beauty and i told him it would be the only ring on my finger until the right man places another on my left hand.  he laughed and said dear it doesn't look like it will be that hard.  Oh my, you have no idea.  I just smirked and walked away.

Truth Bomb mom Kristina Kuzmic Offers a powerful message to single moms(Parents).  I usually won't share things like this on my facebook page but thought it was worth writing about on my blog. She recounts the first time she started having really strong feelings for someone after her divorce,  She was determined to make sure that this man knew it all.  All her imperfections, drama and trash, she was sure he'd run without a doubt.  But to her dismay he stuck around only saying he wanted a part of it all.  She decided to introduce her children to him when she was secure in her feelings with him.  She then shares a story that many single PARENTS know very well.  A sick child waking in the middle of the night followed by the waking of the other child all while being sick yourself.  Trying to clean up the vomit and settle everyone.   She decides to pick up the phone and call this man and say...  Why would any sane man sign up for t...

One down, one to go... the holidays that is.   The weekend before thanksgiving my phone was stolen.  I placed it on the counter at a store and walked out only to return minutes later and it was gone.  So, my mood/emotions were on the rise the days leading up to Thanksgiving.   As strange as it may sound a small part of me wanted the day to come for me to drop the boys off at their dads so i could feel the pain and get it over and done with quickly.  They were excited to "set up" and "prepare" for their feast at their dads house, i faked smiles and told them how excited i was for them all along breaking inside that i can't offer them the same.  I used to be the one planning and prepping for the feast and just like that it was gone.  I know that one day i too will be able to offer them it all.  But, for now since my family is out of town and i won't take the boys from their dad i'll just have to get comfortable with it.  I had a ...

How do you define Success? Today i had the pleasure of attending a presentation as a part of the Glenbard Parent Series... Before the main speaker got up a gentleman by the name of Patrick Donohue posed the question, how do i define success.  At first i'll be honest i thought um, okay.  But he went on to define it and what he said struck me, not just as a parent, but as a women "trying" to date "trying" to be successful in a relationship. Success: Fully going for it, even when you don't know the outcome. Let, me just stop there.  Do you have any idea the number of things i have stopped moving forward toward because i was scared of what the outcome might be.  The rejection, the failure, but wait what if things turned out great and i was a success. Here are a few questions he says to ask: ~Was i Physically ready? ~Was i mentally ready? ~Was i emotionally ready? ~Did i give full effort throughout? Here are three questions to ask when things go w...

So i'm clearly a child born to parents who loved their 80's music because i do too.  Easy Lover is one that i know every word to and can't help but sing.  I don't agree with all the lyrics.  I'm definitely like no other but i WONT deceive you.