Dating Like a Mother

One down, one to go... the holidays that is.   The weekend before thanksgiving my phone was stolen.  I placed it on the counter at a store and walked out only to return minutes later and it was gone.  So, my mood/emotions were on the rise the days leading up to Thanksgiving.   As strange as it may sound a small part of me wanted the day to come for me to drop the boys off at their dads so i could feel the pain and get it over and done with quickly.  They were excited to "set up" and "prepare" for their feast at their dads house, i faked smiles and told them how excited i was for them all along breaking inside that i can't offer them the same.  I used to be the one planning and prepping for the feast and just like that it was gone.  I know that one day i too will be able to offer them it all.  But, for now since my family is out of town and i won't take the boys from their dad i'll just have to get comfortable with it.  I had a ...

How do you define Success? Today i had the pleasure of attending a presentation as a part of the Glenbard Parent Series... Before the main speaker got up a gentleman by the name of Patrick Donohue posed the question, how do i define success.  At first i'll be honest i thought um, okay.  But he went on to define it and what he said struck me, not just as a parent, but as a women "trying" to date "trying" to be successful in a relationship. Success: Fully going for it, even when you don't know the outcome. Let, me just stop there.  Do you have any idea the number of things i have stopped moving forward toward because i was scared of what the outcome might be.  The rejection, the failure, but wait what if things turned out great and i was a success. Here are a few questions he says to ask: ~Was i Physically ready? ~Was i mentally ready? ~Was i emotionally ready? ~Did i give full effort throughout? Here are three questions to ask when things go w...

So i'm clearly a child born to parents who loved their 80's music because i do too.  Easy Lover is one that i know every word to and can't help but sing.  I don't agree with all the lyrics.  I'm definitely like no other but i WONT deceive you.

I Have This HOPE in the depth of my soul This summer the boys and i had the joy of being part of a wave that moved through our community called kindness rocks.  We would paint rocks and hide them around our community hoping that people would find them and it would bring a little joy and happiness into their lives.  The idea is when you find the rock you enjoy it but then re hide it spreading more joy to others and so on.   Just a few weeks ago on a Saturday morning the boys and i had just finished our pinewood derby workshop when Josiah decided to climb a tree in the parking lot.  (Jo can't pass a tree without giving it a go) What he discovered in the tree was a rock and on it, it said 'I have this HOPE in the depth of my soul.' A rainbow was painted on it.  He was super excited to find this kindness rock and passed it off to me asking me to hold onto it for him.  We loaded into the car and i placed it in my cup holder.  Over the days as i ...

Dating like a mother sucks in my opinion.  Now, if i'm honest i haven't been on a first date in months...months i tell you.  I've decided to put dating on the back burner for now focusing on myself and my boys.  With the holidays coming up i have a lot going on and don't need nor want the emotion or drama that comes with dating. But... At the same time, i don't want to be alone.  Being alone is hard but is starting a new relationship harder?  The holidays are always hard weather coupled or single when you're a single parent.  The emotion that comes with watching your children walk out the door on Christmas morning never gets easy, pulling someone into that right now isn't the time. But... When is the time to pull someone in, truly let someone into your life.  I guess i can say i don't know what that looks like or even feels like.  I have yet to fully let someone in.  I actually really want to, just don't know where to start. New Year hop...