Dating Like a Mother

Okay, so call me judgmental but i rather not date a smoker.  Just isn't my thing.  I don't like the smell and don't want to meet the love of my life just to lose them to lung cancer.  So i went on a date with a guy, a really nice guy actually.  This was actually a second date.  We met for dinner and then he asked if i wanted to go to dessert.  Since we drove separate he asked if i wanted to drive together to get the dessert.  I said sure.  He walked over to the passenger side of the car (he needed to clean off the seat... that should have been a sign) I saw him reach for his cigarettes to basically hide them.  Right then and there i knew i was finished.  We needed to go no further.  It was that simple, someone i thought was nice (and didn't smell) and there was a connection but when i found out he smoked i was done.  I suddenly had to go... I know shallow but, we all have deal breakers... and if you don't you should.  Sta...

So recently i was on a date... Not a FIRST date.  I don't kiss on the first date, so don't get any ideas.  We were sitting in a bar having fun conversation.  Our conversation turned into a game.  Who would you rather is what we called the game.  We were taking turns picking out two people and saying who would you rather go on a date with... Then we would answer.  He turned the tables on me and said... Who would you rather kiss.  I looked at him and said neither.  He said okay, pick someone here, who would you want to kiss.  I joked, are you asking me to kiss you?  He said no, pick someone.  I leaned in and laid one on him.  And not just a peck.  When i pulled back he looked at me and said... Wow, I wasn't expecting that...  Leave them speechless and wanting more...

On Sunday i was minding my own business when my phone rang.  It was a number i didn't recognize but a local one.  I decided to answer it. I quickly realized that it was my neighbor (He is a 70+ year old man).  He said... Mar (i have no clue why he calls me that) I have something i need to talk to you about something I've been sitting here for 3 hours thinking about.  I thought oh gosh he wants me to have the mailbox painted or maybe something about the landscape fixed on the house. I said, okay... sure.  He then said, well...I just can't make sense of what happened to you, what that ex husband of yours did to you.  I see you around out and about with your boys, taking care of your home so nicely... i just don't understand.  You are an incredible women, gorgeous and friendly.  I thanked him and told him i appreciated his kind words.  Then he continued to gush which made me more uncomfortable telling me a nice single lady like myself shouldn't...

You Got To Show Me Love... I can't put my love on the line so i hope you understand... so baby if you want me you have to show me love... words are so easy to say... You've got to SHOW me...

So bad date #2 was one i was actually really looking forward to going on.  He had kiddos around my boys ages and it seemed like it could be a match.  We set up a time to meet for coffee during the day.  I arrived early... because if you know me i'm VERY punctual or always early (i respect your time, you should respect mine too)   When he arrived i was actually on the phone with my sister (i know, so rude) i quickly hung up on her and greeted him (everyone gets a hug, keep that in mind.  If you don't or didn't take that as a sign) I already had my drink... he got his.  We sat down and quickly started talking.  I knew pretty quickly that the spark i was hoping for wasn't exactly there like i had hoped for. We were talking about the little stuff.  He then asked me what my schedule looked like with my boys.  I told him and returned the question.  His answer stopped me right there... He said... We have a google calendar and put all of ou...

Just 20 mins from now My sister Michelle and best friend Lauren and I are headed out on a girls weekend. Lauren and i will meet Michelle at midway and we'll all fly together. The three of us are headed to Scottsdale for a weekend of relaxation and reconnecting.  I've been looking forward to this for weeks.  My boys will be on vacation with their dad for the next 11 days, so keeping myself busy and distracted is key.   Many memories are sure to be made.  A full update upon our return...I'm sure ill have lots of updates throughout the weekend on my Instagram...

If you know me even a little, you know that i love to dress up.  I like every aspect that leads up to an event and all the planning that goes into it.  One of my favorite dates was one when my date and i went to a gala.  I spent countless hours picking out just the right dress, something i felt incredible in and knew would be a show stopped.  (i totally nailed it too)  My favorite moment came before the event even started...The evening of the event we were both getting ready in a hotel room.  I was in the bathroom finishing my makeup and hair while he was dressing in the room.  I could hear him trying to tie his bow tie (even watching a you tube video) with little success.  From the bathroom i said, i'll be right there to help.  I slipped into my gown and prepped myself for his first glance and hoped i'd meet all his expectations.  Of course he complimented me as i did him.  But, we still had to get that bow tie just right. ...