Okay, so call me judgmental but i rather not date a smoker. Just isn't my thing. I don't like the smell and don't want to meet the love of my life just to lose them to lung cancer. So i went on a date with a guy, a really nice guy actually. This was actually a second date. We met for dinner and then he asked if i wanted to go to dessert. Since we drove separate he asked if i wanted to drive together to get the dessert. I said sure. He walked over to the passenger side of the car (he needed to clean off the seat... that should have been a sign) I saw him reach for his cigarettes to basically hide them. Right then and there i knew i was finished. We needed to go no further. It was that simple, someone i thought was nice (and didn't smell) and there was a connection but when i found out he smoked i was done. I suddenly had to go... I know shallow but, we all have deal breakers... and if you don't you should. Stay true to yourself. What are some of your deal breakers?
For the last ten years, my world has revolved around my three boys. I poured everything into them, my energy, my time, my heart. I became their anchor, their safe place, their constant. And as the years passed, they grew. Not just taller or older, but more independent and confident. Little by little, I began to feel that familiar shift: they still needed me, but not in the way they once did. For the first time in a decade, I could finally breathe for myself again. I had no expectations of love finding me. My life had settled into a rhythm of responsibility and quiet strength. But then, as life often does when we least expect it, it brought someone into my world who would change everything. A man finding love after loss. A man who loved deeply, truly, wholeheartedly before. Instead of feeling intimidated by the depth of his past, I found myself moved by it. The way he speaks of love, the way he honors what he once had, only makes me feel closer to him. It shows the kind of heart he...
Smoking/drug use would be a deal breaker for me. Dating as a single parent you also have to consider mental illness. Subjecting your kids to that or possibly future kids together.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you, thus why i'm VERY picky and not just only man will meet my children.
DeleteThat's good to hear! You have some handsome little men.
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