Okay, so call me judgmental but i rather not date a smoker. Just isn't my thing. I don't like the smell and don't want to meet the love of my life just to lose them to lung cancer. So i went on a date with a guy, a really nice guy actually. This was actually a second date. We met for dinner and then he asked if i wanted to go to dessert. Since we drove separate he asked if i wanted to drive together to get the dessert. I said sure. He walked over to the passenger side of the car (he needed to clean off the seat... that should have been a sign) I saw him reach for his cigarettes to basically hide them. Right then and there i knew i was finished. We needed to go no further. It was that simple, someone i thought was nice (and didn't smell) and there was a connection but when i found out he smoked i was done. I suddenly had to go... I know shallow but, we all have deal breakers... and if you don't you should. Stay true to yourself. What are some of your deal breakers?
My son Josiah is an excellent soccer player. He started playing at a very early age. He practiced and practiced until he started to see the results he wanted. This wasn't where his hard work would stop. He knew as did I as his mother he would have to continue to put in the hard work day in and day out if he wanted to make the team of his choice as well as be competitive with the other boys. When he first started he was shy and wasn't willing to take many risks. The more time he spend on the field he realized that he had to put himself out there and try new things. Just when he would think he's at the top there are always better players and better teams. The hard work never really stops. I'm so proud of the young man and soccer play he has become. This leads me to a phrase many have heard me say. Any relationship and especially a good one it takes a lot of HARD work. What does that mean? Shouldn't the right rel...
Smoking/drug use would be a deal breaker for me. Dating as a single parent you also have to consider mental illness. Subjecting your kids to that or possibly future kids together.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you, thus why i'm VERY picky and not just only man will meet my children.
DeleteThat's good to hear! You have some handsome little men.
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