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Friendship

 Friendship is defined as mutual trust and support between two people.  Friendship is something I excel at.  Once a friend, always a friend.  When I bring you into my inner circle, you're in.  Even when time passes and things come between a friendship I will always be there no matter what.  This has come to mind recently.

I had a very close friend, one I met my first year of teaching, fresh out of college.  We were both newly married with no children.  She was my go to girly.  When I was pregnant with each of my boys she was a huge support and I was the same for her.  I even watched her oldest daughter when she went back to work, once a week to support her best.  As our families grew and started to change we drifted a bit apart.  I honestly can't even say why.  She moved further away but still within driving distance. Long story short, we went years without speaking.  As the time passed I felt hurt, but didn't even know why. 

Earlier this fall I received a message from her on Facebook (If you know me, I very rarely go on Facebook so it was luck that I saw it).  She asked if I would be open to speaking with her.  I sent her a text and said, let me know when you're available to talk.  We spoke later that day.  For a friend that I have let in, no matter the past or the time and distance I will always be there.  I won't ask questions (especially in a time of need) I will just be the friend you need exactly in that moment.  

I defiantly do shut down when people hurt me, but when push comes to shove when I'm needed I'm available.  The bible tells us to forgive, forgive is something I'm capable of, forgetting is harder.  

Recently within the last couple weeks I've had a few 'run-ins' from someone from my past.  The first time it felt like a bad coincidence. Then when it happened again this week, (I refused to acknowledge the person) I couldn't help feel guilt.  I don't want to be cold, but I also don't want a reminder of hurt.  Sometimes I feel like God wants me to stop and be the bigger kinder person.  So with the holidays coming I am going to try to be the friend I know that I am capable of being.  

Put the past aside and show kindness, if I can do it for some friends I can do it for all.  

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