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High Maintenance

 High maintenance is defined as needing a lot of work to keep in good condition.  Also, demanding a great deal of  attention, money or effort.  I'm not sure if being called the above is an insult or compliment.  

I was recently told by a gentleman that he described me to his friend as high maintenance but kind of in a good way.  I wasn't really sure how to respond at first.  Similarly I've been told that i give an image of perfection.  Neither of these two things are anything that I am or how I want to be described.

Taking care of myself both physically and mentally is very high on my priority list.  This is not just for me but also those that I love and care about around me.  I want someone to see me for who I am, not what I look like.  I promise the inside is so much more beautiful than the outside.  I am kind, loving and generous.  I want someone to take pride in who I am and the fact that I care for myself physically and mentally.  I want to be the best version of myself for all those around me.  

It's a given that people almost always make initial judgements on our outside appearances.  I'm guilty of that myself.  We quickly decide if we find someone attractive based out the outward appearance.  I understand that, but wouldn't it be amazing if someone one day thought, the outside is amazing but her heart is that much better. 

I recently had a conversation with a close friend.  She was complaining about things she wanted to change about her physical, she wanted to eat better, workout more often etc.  I stopped her and reminded her that she has a husband in her life that loves every ounce of her exactly the way she is.  He wouldn't change a thing about her.  What I wouldn't give to have that in my life.  I'd take the extra pounds, I'd take it all to have someone who saw deeper than the outside and still choose me.  

This earthly body will be left behind one day.  I don't think that means we should just let it go completely.  I think that it's been provided to us, to love and care for.  I'm not asking anyone to get up and show up and workout everyday (I do that for me, my physical and mental health) I'm not asking anyone to fund my wardrobe or trips to the salon (Once every 8-12 weeks isnt that demanding).  Do I need these things? no, I don't. But do I enjoy them, yes.  I think it's okay to do things for yourself that you enjoy and makes you feel good. 

Just my thought for the day.

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