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10 Rare Signs You're in a Relationship that can Last a Lifetime

 I recently came across this article (can you call it that?).  It was titled 10 rare signs you're in a a relationship that can last a lifetime.  It popped up on my google feed.  It can be found in full at ideapop, and the article is by Tina Fey.  So, here it goes...

1.You can totally be yourself

2. You face problems together

3. You celebrate each others successes

4. You respect each other's personal space

5. You share core values

6. You communicate openly and honestly

7. You forgive each others mistakes

8. You can disagree without hurting each other

9.  You support each others dreams

10. You choose each other every day

Thoughts, feelings?  I don't think that anyone sets out to hurt the person they're with and love.  It's how they handle it after they do.  As I continue to grow myself and accept my shortcomings I want to be able to meet all these for my future partner.  Recently, I've been a bit hard on myself, I'm not happy with the way I've handled a few things.  Shutting down doesn't help anyone and sometimes we don't realize that until too late.  When I become overwhelmed my reaction is to step away and figure it out but what I've been failing to realize is how that might make the other person feel.  How they react is also VERY telling.  When they say good communication is important for a relationship, they're not kidding. Keep talking about it, talk about it all, even the uncomfortable stuff.  Heck, talk in the dark if you can't look at the person when you say the words, if it makes you squeamish.  

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