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Dating Coach

 So, after talking to a good friend, he's a psychologist dating came up.  We talked about my experiences and how overwhelming it can be.  He said, I have an idea... I'll be your personal dating coach.  I kind of laughed and then thought maybe he might be onto something.  He then asked me to send him pictures I would use of myself on a dating profile and what I might say.  So, I quickly sent him over some photos as well as the words I best feel describe me.  It took hours for him to respond.  I finally said, that bad?  He said I have just a few suggestions and tweaks you should make.  He told me that I needed new pictures because the ones I had chosen would attract nothing but narcissistic men who can't give me the relationship I really seek.  His suggestion was pictures 'having fun'.  

I gathered a few pictures I thought might work and with his approval of only a few.  He put the veto on a couple.  He said I had to have very casual, little to no makeup and nothing that might intimidate a man.  Ugh, hello my name is Mary Beth, I have two names everything about me intimidates men! Basically the pictures we settled on are not close up, you can't see my figure (I work hard for it).  We've placed a wager that his profile will get more attention from the "right" kind of man that my original.  

If nothing else this will provide me with a little entertainment and put a little more money in my pocket.  

Honestly, this whole process sucks, and one I dread.  But, I need to find my happiness whatever that might look like.  With my big birthday approaching (Yes, I'll be 40 soon) I thought things would be different for me.  I can't even say what I thought it would look like, but I thought it would be different.  



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