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Bad Date #2... You still live with who???

So bad date #2 was one i was actually really looking forward to going on.  He had kiddos around my boys ages and it seemed like it could be a match.  We set up a time to meet for coffee during the day.  I arrived early... because if you know me i'm VERY punctual or always early (i respect your time, you should respect mine too)  
When he arrived i was actually on the phone with my sister (i know, so rude) i quickly hung up on her and greeted him (everyone gets a hug, keep that in mind.  If you don't or didn't take that as a sign) I already had my drink... he got his.  We sat down and quickly started talking.  I knew pretty quickly that the spark i was hoping for wasn't exactly there like i had hoped for. We were talking about the little stuff.  He then asked me what my schedule looked like with my boys.  I told him and returned the question.  His answer stopped me right there... He said...
We have a google calendar and put all of our dates and the kids activities in it and work  around it.  At first i thought, okay that seems reasonable.  But then he said we actually all still live together (i first clarified that he was actually divorced)  He said i live upstairs and she lives on the main floor.  Wait i'm sorry... WHAT???  Okay, so i get that maybe this is okay with some people and maybe even works for their family... But, NOT for me. Of course then i blurted out my next question... Who cooks dinner??? (in my defense i didn't know what to say)  I played it cool, and tried not to act to judgmental knowing id never see this guy again. 
After we parted ways he texted me how nice it was to meet me and wanted to know if i'd like to meet for another date.  I responded by politely saying that his home situation made me uncomfortable and if that ever changed to let me know.  Ironically enough a couple months later her texted me and told me that he moved out.  I congratulated him on his big move and never responded to him again.
When i decided i was moving on, i moved on.  I thought it was important for me and for my boys to understand what was happening.  If we had continued to live together this may have confused the boys or maybe even given them false hope that we'd get back together. I truly believe honesty is key when it comes to your kiddos.
I have to go pack... I'm headed out on an adventure tomorrow.  Cheers to trying new things!

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  1. UnknownAugust 13, 2017 at 8:15 PM

    Hhhhmmm, but what if you passed up a good thing?

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    1. Mary BethAugust 15, 2017 at 6:50 PM

      I'm pretty sure i didn't... just a guess but i'm usually right...

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