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Why is it SO hard?

Why is it SO hard?  That's the question i ask myself on a daily basis.  Why is it so hard to find someone that is looking for the same thing you are.  When i say i'm not interested in games that's exactly what i mean.  No, i don't want to be your side chick, or someone you see when in town, or you just take out of town.  I'm looking for someone to enjoy life with, everyday (with some alone time of course).  Someone to experience the ups and downs with.  A relationship is hard work but i truly believe its worth it.  Something I've learned from dating apps and talking to a lot of friends on the topic is... everyone is just waiting for the next best thing to pop up on their screen to swipe right on.  Seriously try focusing on one person and see what happens.  Eventually you're going to run out of people to swipe on and well where will that leave you. 
A. with all the other people who kept thinking they were worth only the best (and kept swiping) the good ones were snagged long ago.
B. Alone
C. Both of the above
With dating apps everything is based on physical and that eventually goes away.  
I guess all i'm saying is be honest about what you're looking for and don't waste your time with those who aren't looking for the same.  

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  1. UnknownJuly 30, 2017 at 12:39 AM

    Hi Mary Beth. In "Modern Dating" Aziz Ansari (yes, I know comedians don't really count as real authors) comes to the same conclusion....all the swiping leads to fear of missing out on something better, & people still end up lonely & upset because they can't focus on what's in front of them. How about we stop swiping, grab dinner or lunch sometime, & see if we can make the people on the apps miss out on us. You seem witty, intelligent & are obviously beautiful; I'm the same (minus the beautiful...we'll say "handsome" or "rugged" instead ;) ...your choice) & I'm not scared of a mom (I have a 9 year old son). So, this is me taking a chance & cutting out a big part of the games.
    Aaron, 36, New Lenox
    815-263-1545

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    1. UnknownAugust 27, 2017 at 9:54 PM

      Wow. I have to say this is pretty direct to post your number on here.

      Why should anyone be scared of a person who has kids. I don't think anyone who is a single parent or not should be afraid of a single parent however a single parent whoa active in their kid's lives will hopefully be more understanding than someone who is childless.

      M

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  2. UnknownSeptember 4, 2017 at 8:04 PM

    Curious minds want to know... Did Aaron's comment get him a date? If so, will he end up on the blog?

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    1. Mary BethSeptember 15, 2017 at 11:00 AM

      No date was granted... so, no story to share...

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    2. UnknownSeptember 19, 2017 at 10:34 PM

      Bummer. Part of me wanted him to be rewarded for his bold risk however it smells oddly suspicious and might end up to be story worthy. For your sake hopefully. The craziness is behind you and your on your way to being retired from dating sites. I'd like someone who also wants to retire deom online dating. It will come in due time I guess.

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